Everyone Wants Redemption

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In order to demonstrate this, a few things are assumed:

* Everyone inherently believes they need to be redeemed
* Everyone is already at that redemption they seek, but unaware that they are.
* 4D principles need application for the theory to make sense. But if 4D isn't easily understood, assume you are in a dream.

Assuming you are in a dream accomplishes the mental viewpoint of seeing the other person as whole, but asleep and dreaming they are not whole. A rich man may dream they have no money. A woman with a perfectly-working body may dream she has a broken limb. Likewise, an infinite being with infinite possibilities as its very nature might, perhaps, dream it's a 2-legged creature plummeting into nowhere on a spinning ball named Earth. (For the principles behind this, see the link on "Ernest Holmes" under the Site Menu)

So, for the purposes of this exercise, it may help to believe you're asleep or that 4D principles are true, but isn't completely necessary so long as you can accept the first two points: Everyone does not need redemption, and everyone believes they need redemption. This statement is not oxymoronic! It would be if it wasn't true. Let's demonstrate.

Wally goes into Wal-Mart and buys a vacuum. Wally learns what Wal-Mart quality is when the thing breaks on the first few uses. Wally is now upset. He may think "Stupid piece of junk!" or he may think "Why did I deserve this?".

Wally walks to the returns desk to complain about his vacuum and get a new one. Wally might not express his anger towards the cashiers (many people do), but Wally is still angry at the vacuum and the company. Instead of helping, it made him drive more, use gas, and waste time.

Let's abstract this scenario, which as you can see is simply a matter of guilt and blame, expressed with the latter quote "What did I do to deserve..." Instead of guilt and blame, let's go up one level and see that Wally simply wants to clean his floor. A clean floor is nice and pretty, and attracts guests. Likewise, a dirty floor repels them, keeping people he loves from visiting. Now we can see that Wally has an inherent "Lack of Redemption" whereby he can't see his loved ones due to his dirty floor. He believes he can Earn Redemption by using a vacuum. Suddenly, this clunky machine is representing everything he wants, and his ability to get it! My word, that's a lot of faith in a Hoover Vacuum. Not only the manifestation, but his complete Ability to earn it is all in the vacuum.

So now the vacuum breaks, what happens? The power inverter overheated? No, even if that did happen. The hose cracked? No, even if that did happen. What happens, on a deeper level, is Wally panics "My Family won't visit! I'm doomed to be unhappy until I can let them come over!" This might seem like overkill, but when you can't wipe the table, what do you think? "Oh no, it's dirty!" You say on the outside. But so's the road, so the dirt can't cause your trouble. The fact that the table's unwiped state affects you is what really bothers you, but even more so, it harms you! You can't have what you want because the table's not clean!

OK, that should be good for the table. What about life? Bosses!
You get yelled at because you forgot to wear your hat one day. Let's say it was casual Friday, just to add some unwarranted victimization (blamed for something you weren't aware of). So, your boss is going on a rant about how the company's image is destroyed because you didn't wear your black hat on Black Friday, and even though you pulled in more revenue than you make in 2 years, your boss seems to hate you and it feels like you might be fired soon. First, you have an insane boss, but deep down he/she has the same psychological issue with Redemption that's currently affecting him/her, and you. (yes, you'll finally understand the commonly asked "What Just happened?")

While your boss is ranting, you might want to step back mentally and say "OK, I know this is a case of "Lost Redemption", where he believes he lost something, but what is it?) From this perspective, it's easier to see all the possibilities, and all of them are likely true. Their job might depend on you, so when you screw up, he/she felt threatened that they'll lose their jobs. "But why are they attacking me?"-you ask. Well, redemption is really guilt and blame from a higher view, so if they lost redemption by your mistake, then making sure the blame for it goes back to you and not them lets them believe they can keep feeling good. After all, you're now the one that needs redemption, according to their deepest psychological beliefs. Maybe you just screw up (or they think you do anyway) a lot and they wanted to yell at you to feel better. Once again, it's the above but so often they might not be as passionate about it. Sometimes it really is on you though, and in that case:

What do you believe you'll lose because of this issue? Your job? Your job is your source of supply, it lets you live. I should not have to explain how you would psychologically feel you need to be redeemed if you lose that. Not only do you need the inner "redemption" of having an income source, but tangibly you need supply to live! I recommend not tackling this until you understand, and more importantly demonstrate, the principle of Supply operating in your daily life. Until then, let's go to the less life-threatening causes.

Respect! Your boss doesn't respect you anymore, perhaps. You can once again abstract this to "I am redeemed because I have quality friends that are fun and respectful at work." and remember, this is a counterreaction to the belief that you are deserving of bad things because you have no good friends that comes with the initial inherent belief that we need redemption. When your boss doesn't respect you, your income is now threatened, your work friend is temporarily not existing as far as you can see, and you're being blamed for something you weren't aware of to begin with! In a case like this, you are going to feel bad, initially, no matter what. What can you do if someone walks up to you and hates your shoes or your eyes? You feel like you can't do anything, except perhaps call them crazy and prove that they're in the wrong. But even so, that just redirects the feeling so you feel redeemed and they feel bad. You can get your boss fired for not informing you about the hat first, but you still won't solve the inner feeling of "Redeem yourself or feel horrible."

For this reason, you need to Neutralize The Situation through either Forgiving or Redemption. Redemption is forgiveness, but easier to apply since it includes all of the principles in a single idea.

Finally, the Technique!
-In both of the above situations, this mental abstraction should let you react calmly without feeling hurt or vengeful. Mentally (not out loud!!!) remember that both of you are at redemption, dreaming/in 4D time, and that you do not need that which you feel you need. The other person feels they want to be redeemed because they don't have ____, and this makes them feel like they are not complete. While you or them believe you need that thing to be complete again, try to remember that your very being is whole, and not in need of redemption. The dreamer will see that both people are just images in a dream, and the infinite self that's following either body is simply being tricked by the images. The 4D perspective is to see time as already complete, where you are simply a consciousness watching someone's story from the viewpoint of the body you're in. Therefore there is no need to react to the expressed anger of yourself or the other person. If you did, that would be the equivalent of trying to help your favorite movie character argue a point. It won't change the movie, but you can always walk away from the projection screen. That final method will give peace. And where you can't physically go away, you can mentally say "This is a trick, and I'm not going to fall for it this time."

Thus, Buddhism summarizes this entire method by calling it "Nonreaction." Now you know why.